Talk, talk, talk, the utter and heartbreaking stupidity of words? This is generally something that strikes in our head when we feel like its been enough. And now is the time to give the concerned person a piece of mind. Well, the pun intended above has a deep viewpoint to be understood.
Among the limitless human wisdoms and between the numerous lessons one learns throughout his life is knowing exactly when to leave words unsaid. For there are so many occasions when the conflicting thoughts bangs the head and the heart from tip to toe. This issue ranges to every age group. When the harmony of each thought is hit, straining the occurrences in the mind, anger burst is what we encounter. As simple as you try to figure out, the more complicated things become. Through the passing years we learn by noticing others. And what is absorbed remains as long lasting with us. Words are so powerful and at the same they can be so hurtful, damaging inch by inch of your relationship with anyone.
Well, have you ever had conversations in your head, saying over and over to yourself if he or she says this, then I`m giving them a piece of mind? In your mind you have already determine the words you would use, so as in to make your point. That`s not wisdom. That`s the emotional immaturity revealing ones insecurity. Have you ever spoken out in anger? “Speak when you are angry and you would make the best speech you will regret.”
Surely many of us have done this number of times. But then when you sit, calm and composed after whatever you have leased out, you realize that your words may be perceived wrong. Anger is perhaps the most harmful of silences spoken or otherwise. One of the reasons is because angry people are not always wise. Anybody can become angry, for this is easy. But to lease out your anger in a right possible manner is what matters. Unfortunately this is not present in everyone of us. Being impulsive and making out decisions in haste lead to regrets. But repenting on what has occurred no longer solves the problem. What is wise is to direct your anger towards the problem not the people.
WHAT HELPS?
- Identify your negative thoughts.
- Talk about it to someone you can trust. A friend, a partner, parent etc.
- Read good books.
- Write down what hampers your brain activity. Writing helps a lot.
- Indulge in activities, hobbies you enjoy.
- Listen to some good music. MUSIC HEALS.
“Well timed silence hath more eloquence than speech.”
There is always a correct time to speak and let the other person know about your feelings. Your take, be it for anything requires to be expressed in the simplest of words. But what is more important? To stand out and say it all? Or to keep things to yourself?
Is something so hurtful or it is bothering you so much that you choose to let it continue you to hurt? “The adage if
you can`t say something nice, then don`t say anything at all has stood the test of time.”
Most of us have heard this in our lifetime. There is a fine line between knowing when not to say anything and wisdom to know the difference. Although you can never control what the other person is saying but you can surely select your viewpoint of words to be used. Many of us often come across people who tend to go in their nutshell, their own little space whenever encountered with social problems. That is something that is assisting them to come out of the problems.
IF YOU CHOOSE TO SPEAK BE MINDFUL OF THE WORDS YOU SAY. IF SILENCE IS MORE APPROPRIATE, IT WILL SPEAK OUT AND CLEAR.
So what would work?
“If wisdom’s way you wisely seek,
Five things observe with care,
To whom to speak,
Of who to speak,
And how, when and where.”
It is not easy to keep ones mouth shut but holding the accountability for your gestures is again the trait of the wisest that we admire and try to inculcate in ourselves in our lifespan too. There is a time to speak and there is a time to be silent.
“The true genius shudders at incompleteness and usually prefers silence to saying something which is not everything it should be.” – EDGAR ALLAN POE.
Article By: Sujata Bhau
